Here is my first unassisted birth.
This Easter I was looking forward to a nice Easter egg hunt and a
delicious prime rib dinner, unfortunately I was not able to participate
in either of these because baby had different plans; he wanted to come
I woke up at 6:45 AM feeling a lot of pressure on and
thought it was just because I had to go to the bathroom, but I was wrong
because I still felt the pressure after going to the bathroom. It was
my first contraction. I whispered to Griffin that I was having
contractions about an hour later. He got pretty excited, but stayed
calm. He got up and made waffles for Avery, while I ate cheerios and a
banana. I wasn’t really convinced that I was in real labor.
felt the contractions more and more as the morning went along. Avery
was starting to bother me a little (wanting to be held, etc.) So I told
Griffin to go ahead and go to church so I could be alone for a bit. He
was already in his church clothes ready to go and I decided that I was
really in labor and had him help me fill the birthing tub up in the
kitchen. We hooked up a brand new hose to the sink on our back porch so
we could get hot water fast and easy.
One factor I didn’t think
about was the fact that we had a skylight in the kitchen and I like to
birth in darkness. So we quickly taped some cardboard over the skylight
and nailed a tarp to the outside of the house to cover up the light
coming in through the glass doors. Finally my birthing sanctuary was
ready. So I had Griffin give me a blessing and sent him off to church
to give me some quiet time alone. They left the house at about 10 or
10:30 and didn’t return until 12:15. I turned on my hypnobirthing CD
and lit the same lavender candle that I used in Avery’s birth and got
into the tub.
I was very relaxed and breathed through each
contraction. I have to say with Avery’s birth I didn’t feel any pain,
but with this birth I had back labor. Ouch. Thank goodness for
hypnobirthing helping me through.
My legs started to get cold, so
I grabbed one of the towels that was on standby and put it over them,
that was nice. When Avery got home he called me a “beautiful mermaid.”
He is so precious. Unfortunately, he wanted to splash me, so I asked
Griffin to call my mom and have her come take Avery for a little bit.
When she arrived, she was shocked to see me in a birth tub in the
kitchen. We had kept our plans secretive because when I brought up the
idea that women do this, my family freaked out, so I decided to keep it a
secret until afterwards. (my grandma says that once I am feeling 100%
she’s going to kill me!) Anyway, she asked if she could stay and I said
yes as long as she didn’t try to make me go to the birth center or
hospital. She was fine with that. She kept Avery busy and all the
sudden my body started pushing. I didn’t tell my mom or Griffin that I
was pushing I was just letting it happen and focusing on my
hypnobirthing. I then threw up my breakfast, luckily Griffin was close
by to give me a bowl to catch it. Griffin left to clean out the bowl.
the head came out, I whispered to my mom that the head was out and she
grabbed Griffin to come watch. Avery wanted to see too. A few pushes
later (about 1:45) and we had a beautiful (purple) baby. I was so
concerned with the color that I forgot to check and see what the sex
was. He was breathing and spitting up mucus (along with me suctioning
it) so I checked it out, we had another boy!
It was a beautiful
easy 7 hour birth, the next part of the story is the afterbirth story,
not as wonderful, but better than I had expected.
*****We called my
midwife that I had been seeing for prenatal visits and she told us to
get an ambulance ride to the birthing center to check us out because of
baby’s color. When the EMTs arrived they tested his oxygen saturation
and it was in the 70s (It should be 95-100) so we called my midwife
Roseanne back and she said, “I’ll meet you at the hospital.” Bummer. I
waited for the placenta to be born and then I got in the ambulance. I
wanted to eat some placenta, but there wasn’t any time. We got in the
ambulance and the baby nursed the whole way there, holy cow that was a
We got to the hospital and Griffin stayed with baby the
whole time while Roseanne checked me out. My uterus was really high
up, so she had a nurse rub my tummy to get it down. While I was being
rubbed, so checked me inside for any placenta because she hadn’t seen if
that placenta was whole or not, and she found a piece of it and a lot
of clots. I was also losing, and had already lost, a lot of blood. I
was put on pitocin to get the contractions going and it helped. I can’t
imagine being on this stuff while already in labor! I also had a 2nd
degree tear, which Roseanne took care of.
Ok, to wrap this up
baby and I were in the hospital for about 26 hours and finally go to
leave once his oxygen saturation was up to par. We are back at home
where we started this journey and doing well. We finally decided on a
name about 4 days later. We call him Finn Allister Bean. If I had to
do it again I would definitely do it unassisted. Even with the hospital
transfer, the actual birth was priceless.
Finn Allister Bean
March 23, 2008
About 1:45 PM
9 lbs 4 oz
22 inches long
Head full of blonde hair